Preparing Your Garden – Ready the Soil – Part 4

Preparing Your Garden – Ready the Soil – Part 4

Today has been a day of relaxation. Even though I have had a sick child and another being the most beautiful wild flower in the world, I have been relaxed. I know what it feels like to be STILL. I have only recently been shown what being STILL in the Lord actually means, but it is such an amazing feeling. So this is why I am writing and publishing this so late this evening. But let’s begin, shall we?

Now Jesus’ mother and brothers came to see him, but they were not able to get near him because of the crowd. Someone told him, “Your mother and brothers are standing outside, wanting to see you.”

He replied, “My mother and brothers are those who hear God’s word and put it into practice.”

Luke 8:19-21 NIV

If you need to read that passage again, go ahead. Really see what Jesus is saying here. – “those who hear God’s word and put it into practice.”  – He is reiterating the same point. Something repeated is important. You may feel that what I write may be repeating itself. “Why does this sound just like yesterday?”

This is going to take time. You can not rush into Preparing Your Garden. Christ is the time keeper here and after all, this is the relationship that you have with Him. It took me a long time to realize this. His time. How important my relationship is with Him. There are things I have prayed about for 10+ years that have STILL not been answered. Or have they and maybe I have not taken notice to it? I need to pray about that and start taking a look. Any who, this is your individual relationship with Christ. Just like you are committed to your marriages, jobs, children – this relationship has an even HIGHER importance than those. So this is a life-long commitment. You have to be all in. We can’t be lukewarm, brothers and sisters.

Tonight, tenderly, quietly, bravely and fearlessly ask yourself, “How am I responding to God’s word? Do I merely agree with it or do I really obey it as well?”

2018 was a year full of witnessing friends, family, and people of fellowship coming to the realization that they had been hearing God’s word and believing God’s word but not really doing it. They thought they they were following Jesus. I have seen people sob deeply in repentance for not doing, for all the opportunities missed, and what that has taken away from their lives and the lives of those they love. (My husband and I did this a couple years ago). Some of those same people battle so hard today to completely die of self and surrender to Jesus. Haven’t we all been there? When you’re experiencing your life with Christ at the center of it, your heart breaks for people that haven’t experienced it. We do not have the ability to follow Jesus if we don’t follow Him in absolute surrender.

I have really been doing it; the work and the resting, hearing and listening to Him. The transformation has been indescribable. Now, I still have a lot of work to do. Believe me! I am still learning and growing. I am literally doing this, all of this, with you! I have felt so much growth in different aspects of my life and I have also noticed in the last month what seeds He is planting; and there are plenty more to come.


Most roads don’t lead anywhere. What it does mean is that I will travel any road to find you.

The Shack – pg 182

“My mother and my brothers are those who hear the word of God and do it.” – Wow – There is an inseparable connection between love and obedience. You don’t even have the desire to be disobedient. (Don’t forget about the spiritual warfare though. As you continue to overcome and say no to the things of the world (your sin), the desire grows and grows). You may be distracted, lulled to sleep, or so challenged by your circumstances that you aren’t able to focus on God’s word and take it seriously. You may be giving yourself excuses. But Jesus’ words are clear, folks!

We have to make time! My husband and I both work 40+ hours a week, we have 4 children that are 10 years old and younger, a household to maintain, bills, and a life just like millions of other people in this world. You can make the time and the more your desire grows, the more time you’ll WANT to make. But the time has to be given! Do not delay. He needs His soldiers to rise up and start walking with Him. He longs for us. He loves us so much. Right now we need to be strong in Him so we can be strong everyday and for what battles are ahead.

“If anyone comes to me and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple.”

Luke 14:26

“So therefore, any one of you who does not renounce all that he has cannot be my disciple.”

Luke 14:33

It is time to put pride aside. Do you understand what He just said? If we do not hate those we love and even ourselves for not renouncing all that we have, we cannot be his disciple. That is serious! Our Lord is just and he doesn’t say things just to chat. He means what He says. As painful as it might be, ask yourself this question: “Do I merely agree with God’s word or do I obey it as well?”

Isn’t it better to weep now rather than later? Absolutely! Ask the Lord for His help, for His mercy on you, a sinner. Confess your apathy (lack on interest), your fear, and your unbelief. Ask Him for His grace and strength to surrender all. What might it mean? Loss of control? Possible failure? Loss of self? Admitting that things aren’t as they seem? Not having your sinful comforts?


Falsehood has an infinity of combinations, but truth has only one mode of being.

The Shack – Chapter 13

“O Lord, help me see that you don’t want to take anything away from me, but that you want to give me abundant life! You want to give me yourself!”

This is the song that I listened to before writing and during this tonight. Close your eyes or read the lyrics when you listen. Let the Holy Spirit speak to you. Do not fear, let Him in.

Turning Wounds Into Wisdom,

You Him and Her


Preparing Your Garden – Ready The Soil – Part 3

Preparing Your Garden – Ready The Soil – Part 3

It is Day 5, ladies and gentleman! I know some may think, “It is only Day 5, why be excited about it?”. You should ALL be excited about continuing this journey. I don’t care if it’s Day 1 or Day 40, YOU are still Preparing Your Garden! He is so proud of us all. How delighted He is in us.

Let us read Luke 8:16-18 NIV – A Lamp on a Stand

“No one lights a lamp and hides it in a clay jar or puts it under a bed. Instead, they put it on a stand, so that those who come in can see the light. For there is nothing hidden that will not be disclosed, and nothing concealed that will not be known or brought out into the open. Therefore consider carefully how you listen. Whoever has will be given more; whoever does not have, even what they think they have will be taken from them.”

When we read this, we learn that Jesus is saying that there will come a day when nothing will be hidden; the condition of all of our hearts will be out in the open. But then it will be too late.

You all know the things that are going on the world today. Some followers believe that we are in the End Times. The signs are happening all around us. He tells us to watch for the signs. However, it is not what we should be consumed with. Our soil, our relationship with Him is what we should be focused on ALL the time. No matter if we are in the End Times or not, do you really want it to be too late to have been able to live the will for your life and to have pleased Him and gained your crown? I do not want to take that chance. I want to receive my crown. I want to please Him. I want to lead others to His undying love and mercy.

Take a moment to take what Jesus has said to your heart. Ask yourself, “How IS my heart responding to God’s word?” Remember a time in your life when you tried to hide something but the truth was revealed anyways. For example, you could have hidden your grades from your parents, but at the end of the year the truth came out on your report card. I remember a time when I was in First Grade. I had just started at Sunbright School in TN. I was beyond nervous! (I even remember the awful outfit I was wearing) While in my First Grade class, I met my Best Friend of now 20+ years. She always had the coolest stuff! I was so jealous of the clothes, things, and even the relationship she had with her dad. One day, she brought in the cutest purse. I wanted that purse! And you know what I did, I took it. I straight took that purse, MY BEST FRIENDS PURSE, and put it in my backpack. I went home that day and told my mom that she gave it to me; with everything in it! I thought I had gotten away with stealing and I would get to enjoy this purse. After returning to school, the teacher had asked all of us students if we had seen her purse. We all denied it, obviously. Well, for some reason, (probably because I was not a smart thief), I had her purse in my backpack that day. Since no one had confessed to stealing it, the teacher started going through all of our backpacks. “What is that doing in my backpack?!”, I said surprisingly. My best friend looked at me with the most surprised and heartbroken eyes. I was crushed for crushing her. I could not believe what I had done. I was ashamed and felt so guilty. In the end, the truth came out. I repented of my ways!

Lies are one of the easiest places for survivors to run. It gives you a sense of safety, a place where you only have to depend on yourself. But it’s a dark place, isn’t it?

The Shack – Pg 187

You can not hide your heart, or stolen purses, from God. The truth will come to light. I was thankful for feeling those feelings of shame and embarrassment. It taught me that I never wanted to feel those feelings again and I definitely did not want my best friend to feel betrayed and hurt again by ME. It was terrible. I was the new girl in class and now I was also called a thief. Thankfully, this beautiful soul forgave me and I was able to experience my first glimpse of forgiveness.

Lies are a little fortress; inside them you can feel safe and powerful. Through your little fortress you try to run your life and manipulate others. But the fortress needs wall. So you build some. These are the justifications for your lies. You know, like you are doing this to protect someone you love, to keep them from feeling pain. Whatever works, just so you feel okay about the lies.

The Shack – Pg 187

You may never have stolen your best friends purse and been exposed in front of your entire class, however, now you may be a bit distracted and not taking God’s word seriously. You may be trying to hide the condition of your hear from the Lord and others. Haven’t we all? Especially when we feel those awful feelings. We all have a habit of looking around at others to measure how we are doing. We assess our godliness and obedience as if God were grading on a curve. Like He is a Technical Writer creating circle graphs for all that we have done wrong. He’s not. We are afraid to have God see what our hearts are truly like. What sinful desires our hearts hold, the anger they hold towards another one of His beloved children. Don’t be afraid to have God see what our hearts are truly like. Don’t be afraid! It’s not like He doesn’t already know anyways. Tell Him you don’t want to stand before Him one day and find out that you ‘barely made it’, ‘could’ve done better’, or even worse ‘He doesn’t know you at all!

Better to look now. Ask the Lord for His grace to do what needs to be done. What might it mean? Change? Submitting? Giving up what you want to do? Why do you hold that in your heart? Where does that stronghold stem from? What soil was that nasty thing planted in?

The Lord has been so gracious with me. Oh, how gracious and merciful. I have seen what He wants me to change right in front of my face before and have made the decision to turn my cheek the other way. But today, that is no longer the heart that is beating in my chest!

So yesterday when I told you that spiritual warfare will, without a doubt, increase in your life when you start strengthening your relationship with Christ – It has already begun for me. I won’t go into detail just yet but know that you are not alone in this. The ancient demons that have known you your entire life are prowling and waiting. They cringe when they hear you pray or when you sing praises to the Almighty. That is when they begin their efforts of destruction; trying to bring you back and not forward. They do this by temptation, people from your past may abruptly show up, your thoughts become dark and depressing, you could find yourself judging others again – whatever it is that you know they use against you, they will. They will attack from every angle, so do not be left unprotected. Keep the armor of Christ on!

Again, know that you are not walking through this alone. There is no need to fear. My grandmother told me about a year ago that fear is False Evidence Appearing Real. I still have that sloppy written sticky note on my fridge as a reminder. There is no good in hiding. Call out to your Lord: “O Lord, have mercy. O Lord, I need your grace!” He will be all the strength and comfort that you need.

I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.

Galations 2:20 NIV

I felt led to share this song you all this evening and after writing this. You may not like this type of music or have another reason for not clicking ‘Play’ but the Holy Spirit has put it on my heart for a reason and that reason may just possibly be for you to put your initial thought to the side and click that ‘Play’ button anyway. 😉

Ellie Holcomb – “Find You Here”

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Turning Wounds Into Wisdom,

You Him and Her

The Holy Spirit Produces Fruit: SELF-CONTROL

The Holy Spirit Produces Fruit: SELF-CONTROL

Self-control (Galatians 5:22-23), which is often translated “sober”, is a sober-mindedness that gives thought before acting. Self-control, which is produced by the Holy Spirit, gives way to godly desires rather than sinful desires. A person with self-control looks to future and eternal realities rather than indulging immediate sinful impulses.

So be on your guard, not asleep like the others. Stay alert and be clearheaded. Night is the time when people sleep and drinkers get drunk. But let us who live in the light be clearheaded, protected by the armor of faith and love, and wearing as our helmet the confidence of our salvation

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