If You’re an Empath, You Must Try This Self-Care Regimen.

If You’re an Empath, You Must Try This Self-Care Regimen.

If you are highly sensitive to other peoples emotions and energy, you may want to add this to your list of self-care.

For as long as I can remember, I have always been sensitive to others emotions and energy, as well as, sounds, smells, tones, lights, and even facial expressions can overwhelm me. I am most definitely an Empath.

One thing that I do to help relax my mind when feeling over stimulated and unable to relax is shower in the dark. Yes, in the dark.

If I feel very overwhelmed and over stimulated, even the slightest bit of light can keep me from being able to relax. If you can relate, you know how terrible it feels to have tense muscles all the time. And that is just one of the symptoms.

So if you’re like me, an Empath, try taking a hot shower in the dark.

  1. Turn off the lights. If you have a hall light or a diffuser that omits light that isn’t too much for you, go ahead and turn it on.
  2. Start the shower! By the time you are prepped, your shower will be hot and ready.
  3. Get your towels, cloths, clothes, blue-tooth speaker (water-proof preferred), lotion, essential oils, diffuser, and a bath bomb (for a long bath afterwards).
  4. If you like to listen to calming and relaxing music, you can either turn it on before your shower or when you are filling up the tub for that hot bath.
  5. Keep a towel next to the tub to dry your hands in case you need to change the volume or music. Do not answer calls, emails, or texts. This is YOUR time.
  6. Take your shower! Take as long as you want. Wash the day and stimuli away with each sudsy stroke. This is also the time to shave. Do not wait until your bath to shave. Yikes. You don’t want to soak in what you just washed and shaved off, do you?
  7. If you are wanting to take a bath after your dark shower, I recommend waiting to fill the tub until your shower is completely over. Time to turn the shower off.
  8. As your tub is filling with water, take this time to open up your bath bomb or essential oils.
  9. Rest your head, inhale the scents around you, breathe and listen to the music/sounds you have playing.
  10. When you are done, you know what to do.

I hope you are able to find relief with this dark shower/bath regimen. I find it to be the most relaxing thing I do. Even being a wife and mother of 4 children, I am able to find time to do this a minimum of once a week and usually it isn’t until 10pm.

Take time for yourself. Self-care is so important.

Let us know what ways you are able to relax. Do you shower in the dark?


Look Up to the Skies

Look Up to the Skies

The heavens declare the glory of God; and the firmament sheweth his handywork.
Psalms 19:1 KJV

When you look up at the sky, do you see the work of God’s hands?

We need to have KINGDOM eyes and see His glory all around us; up, down, and side-to-side.

What did you look at today that reminded you of the work of our Father’s hands? Comment and share what you want to glorify God for so we can glorify Him with you!

Turning Wounds Into Wisdom,

You Him and Her 💜

Truth and Freedom

Truth and Freedom

One thing I’ve learned on my journey thus far is this: our spiritual freedom is found as we learn the truth about the lies that have held us captive. These are the moments in which love breaks through the darkness and the blinders begin to fall off of our eyes, revealing the sweet freedom that is ours to walk in.

There are spiritual forces at work that try to lure us into their world of lies. Once we buy into those lies, they create an atmosphere or subculture around us from which we live, operate, and see our lives.

Therefore, oftentimes, what’s going on outside of us reveals what’s going on deep within us. Whether it’s the news, social media, circumstances, our spouses, children, leaders, friends, the driver in the car in front of you, coworkers, or that person walking down the street, any of these can push our buttons and squeeze our lives like a toothpaste tube. It’s when we are under pressure that we see what is within us.

Is it anger? Control? Fear? Unforgiveness?

Or is it peace, love, joy, patience, and the like?

I recently resigned with my employer after many discussions regarding what needed to change in my department. I held a very important role within the company and sincerely loved the responsibilities I had and about 80 percent of the people I had the pleasure of working with. Instead of feeling fear when deciding to resign from that position, I felt joy and peace. Even though there are still pressures around me, I know that I have given my life and ALL its circumstances to Christ, therefore, I’m EXCITED to see what He has planned for my future endeavors and for my family. The enemy can try to lie to me and tell me that I don’t have value, I’m not smart, or that I made a mistake but since Christ is at the center of my life, I know that there was no mistake made and that I’m wonderfully made in His image. I am deciding to not live in the enemies lies.

What if I told you there’s a way to break free from the lies you’ve found yourself living in, that there’s a way to step into the truth that is wrapped in love, enabling you to create the culture of the kingdom of heaven inside your heart and around your life?

In some seasons it feels like a fight to step into spiritual freedom, and in other seasons there’s a beautiful ease in aligning ourselves with what is already ours in Jesus. It’s an ongoing process for each and every one of us and, of course, a very personal one. It’s a journey I hope we can share together. I believe I can help as a fellow traveler on the path of freedom.

Freedom from the lies is available to all of us through God’s Son, Jesus, and the gift of our helper and counselor, the Holy Spirit. We just have to be willing to do what it takes to partner with the truth and step into it.

Turning Wounds Into Wisdom,

You Him and Her 💜