Why God Told Us to Not Spare the Rod

You know the scripture, “spare the rod, spoil the child”, right? It’s a very popular scripture that is quoted a lot when parents validate their discipline or give their opinion on another parents lack of.

But do you know WHY the Lord tells us this? It’s not just so we don’t raise spoiled children that have no respect for authority or rules. No, not at all.

Here’s what the Holy Spirit has spoken to me numerous times in th last few weeks – Again, when we take the right disciplinary actions with our children, what are we teaching them, how are we helping them?

Discipline teaches our children obedience. They learn that obedience gets them further than rebellion and also creates trust and respect in your relationship with them and with others because who they were obedient to has not lead them astray but has led them out of wisdom, experience, knowledge, and LOVE.

So when we teach our children the importance of obedience through disciplinary actions, acknowledge when they’ve chosen obedience over rebellion, and strengthen that self discipline within themselves, we are teaching them to be obedient to CHRIST.

When they are adults and going through valleys WITHOUT us there to guide them and hold their hands, the discipline and obedience we taught them will be absolutely necessary to climb out of that valley victorious because they listened and obeyed the Lord when His Spirit directed them. Their flesh didn’t control their steps; they walked with Jesus. Not because they werent tempted. Not because they didn’t fall. Not because they didn’t want to go another direction. But because they were taught discipline and obedience as children. They know that they can trust the one who holds their entire life in their hands; you as their parent when they are children and Father when they are mature enough.

We are held responsible for our children, remember that. I need to remind myself of that when I don’t feel like being consistent with my discipline because I’m exhausted.

It’s not about being right or wrong or them listening to you just because you told them to do or not to do something. It’s preparing them for eternity and for their relationship and walk with our Lord.

You’re purpose as their parent is so much more than cleaning their messes and keeping their laundry done. He made you their parent for a much, much higher purpose. You were specifically chosen for the job. You should feel really good about that. 😊😌

So now the question is: How obedient are we to the Lord? Where does our own discipline lack?

Pray about it. Ask Him to show you. I have to do it every single day. None of us are exempt but we have one another to lean on, ask for prayer from, encourage, and just be there for one another. Most importantly, we have Holy Spirit.

Let’s raise em right and for the kingdom. 💪🏼🙌🏼 – not for this world.

“Those who spare the rod of discipline hate their children. Those who love their children care enough to discipline them.”

‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭13:24‬ ‭NLT‬‬

#discipline #obedience #Christianmother #onestepatatime #freewill #youdecide #youhimandher #parenting

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